Hey friend,
I see you working so hard to make sure your life counts and you are doing everything in a God-honoring way.
You are serving your family and your community with all your energy and time, making sure you are living with intention and purpose.
You are doing world-changing work, friend.
But you're falling into bed every night feeling exhausted and stuck...
You’re focusing so hard on keeping all the balls in the air:
- Growing in your walk with the Lord
- Parenting
- Marriage
- Volunteering at Church
- Bringing in an income
- Taking Care of Yourself
- Marking sure everyone eats at least one healthy food per day
- Keeping the house from burning down
- Keeping up with the laundry (the one constant in your life)
You feel like if you just had a different personality and life circumstances, your life would be more ordered and balanced and you could fully crush this life God has given you.
Hi, I'm Shelley
I am a pro at helping women of faith create rhythms of harmony in their home and work, so they can live with peaceful purpose.
My passion is seeing you manage your priorities with ease as you thrive as the daughter of the King you were born to be.
Let's look at the Why of harmony
because I know you’re ready to break up with pursuing balance!
You were made to reflect your creator.
In Genesis 1:27, we read that God created us in his image, which means we are reflections of Him. As the perfect representation of all that is good, we know that He is a God of order and harmony, which means perfect agreement with no contradictions.
This means as his image bearers, we have the opportunity to reflect him, though imperfectly, as we create order and harmony in our own lives.
Balance is a pointless pursuit.
Like a seesaw, balance is you sitting on one end and your priorities on the other end sitting perfectly balanced without any up and down. If you’re snorting in your coffee, you’re my person, because we both know this is impossible and not how a seesaw is designed to work. It works best when there is back and forth, give and take, flexibility in distributing the weight.
That’s what harmony is– an agreement and back and forth in what is most important, which gives freedom to distribute your time, attention, and energy where it is needed most without guilt about the side not getting your attention.
Create harmony in your priorities
Harmony in your priorities provides you with the ability to live from a place of overflow, because you get to choose where to put your time, attention, and energy. This gives you margin for what is most important, allowing you to thrive as God designed you to be. Ultimately, it provides you with the confidence to give the most important things a whole-hearted, “YES!”
if you're thinking,
"That's easy for you to say."
Let’s pull back the curtain, shall we?
When I became a mother of four children in six years, I quickly learned how little I knew about how to create the life I wanted.
Since then I have devoted myself to learning, growing, and pursuing Jesus like never before. This is why faith, family, and always looking at where I can improve is a big part of who I am.
On any given day you can find me sitting in my office working with my coaching clients, spending time with my kids and husband, or playing the piano for fun (because it keeps my brain strong). If you lived close by, I’d invite you over for a cup of coffee, because every good convo starts around coffee:)
Wait, four kids in six years?
Yes, we know how that happens…
When I became a mom, I thought I could crush motherhood.
This was back in 2011 and honestly, I’m embarrassed to admit how proud I was and how capable I thought I was. Part of it was due to having had such an incredible mother growing up who was a beautiful role model and part of it was because we’d waited a while to have a baby, so I had time to consider ALL the things I would and wouldn’t do as a mother. (que laughter here)
Of course it didn’t take me long to figure out I was not as capable as I thought and by the time my third child was born, I knew I had to do something to turn the ship around, because I was depressed, exhausted, frustrated, angry, and overwhelmed most of the time. Sure, on the outside I kept it together, because that’s what we do in the South, but inside, everything felt like it was one temper tantrum away from going up in flames.
I started talking to mentors, reading books, and purposefully looking for ways to revamp our home’s rhythms and my own personal rhythms to create the life I knew reflected God’s character more accurately.
It started small and while I didn’t think much about it, other moms and women began asking me things like:
“How are you so calm all the time?”
“How do you keep your house cleaned and orderly when you work?”
“How do you and your husband find time to connect when his work hours are crazy.”
And over time, I began to realize that what God had taught me over the years about abiding in Him and creating rhythms of harmony in my work and rest was something I could help others learn too.
In 2020, yes the year of a pandemic, I launched Cultivate Legacy to be a place of encouragement, inspiration, and resources for other women of faith who were ready for their lives as a reflection of their Creator too.